What is Counselling?
"The goal of therapy is to participate in a conversation that continually
loosens and opens up, rather than constricts and closes down. Through therapeutic
conversations, fixed meanings and behaviours…are given room, broadened, shifted, and changed." - Anderson and Goolishian, 1988
Counselling is a unique experience for everyone –
that’s because you, your relationship or family are all unique!
Counselling will help you work out why you are feeling and/or acting in a certain way and help you
in changing unhelpful mental habits, non- beneficial patterned behaviours and disabling thoughts and emotions.
Counselling is about providing you with a safe and trusting environment whereby you feel comfortable
talking about issues that are of concern to you and/or your loved ones. Counselling is a private and
confidential process whereby everything talked about is kept confidential. There are some exceptions
to this that I will talk about during the first meeting, but I will always discuss with you first, if
I need to break your confidentiality.
Counselling can help you...
- Explore emotions, thoughts and behaviours, which may be puzzling, uncomfortable or distressing for you.
Understanding more about your thoughts, emotions and behaviours can help you gain more control over them.
- Improve your relationship with yourself and others including your family/whanau and loved ones.
- Acquaint yourself with what you value in life and find new meanings, understandings and awareness of yourself and others.
- Find peace, contentment and fulfilment through reducing stress/anxiety and expanding possibilities.
- Bring about positive change in your life and help you move forward towards the life you want to and deserve.
- Equip yourself with beneficial parenting strategies, so you can be the best parent you can for your children
- Create for yourself and your family a fulfilling life
What counselling is not
- Counselling is not about diagnosing or pathologizing you, or encouraging you to comply to ‘normative’ standards
- Counselling is not about giving advice or telling you what to do in your life, however, together we will explore a number
of possibilities that you can then decide upon
- Counselling is not about taking sides or disrespecting anyone in a counselling relationship
- Counselling is not a process to convince a third party (a judge, lawyer, CYF’s social worker) that your behaviour/s have
changed, but a counsellor can validate that you are or have attended counselling