What is Counselling?



"The goal of therapy is to participate in a conversation that continually loosens and opens up, rather than constricts and closes down. Through therapeutic conversations, fixed meanings and behaviours…are given room, broadened, shifted, and changed." - Anderson and Goolishian, 1988

Counselling is a unique experience for everyone – that’s because you, your relationship or family are all unique!

Counselling will help you work out why you are feeling and/or acting in a certain way and help you in changing unhelpful mental habits, non- beneficial patterned behaviours and disabling thoughts and emotions.

Counselling is about providing you with a safe and trusting environment whereby you feel comfortable talking about issues that are of concern to you and/or your loved ones. Counselling is a private and confidential process whereby everything talked about is kept confidential. There are some exceptions to this that I will talk about during the first meeting, but I will always discuss with you first, if I need to break your confidentiality.

Counselling can help you...


  • Explore emotions, thoughts and behaviours, which may be puzzling, uncomfortable or distressing for you. Understanding more about your thoughts, emotions and behaviours can help you gain more control over them.
  • Improve your relationship with yourself and others including your family/whanau and loved ones.
  • Acquaint yourself with what you value in life and find new meanings, understandings and awareness of yourself and others.
  • Find peace, contentment and fulfilment through reducing stress/anxiety and expanding possibilities.
  • Bring about positive change in your life and help you move forward towards the life you want to and deserve.
  • Equip yourself with beneficial parenting strategies, so you can be the best parent you can for your children
  • Create for yourself and your family a fulfilling life

What counselling is not


  • Counselling is not about diagnosing or pathologizing you, or encouraging you to comply to ‘normative’ standards
  • Counselling is not about giving advice or telling you what to do in your life, however, together we will explore a number of possibilities that you can then decide upon
  • Counselling is not about taking sides or disrespecting anyone in a counselling relationship
  • Counselling is not a process to convince a third party (a judge, lawyer, CYF’s social worker) that your behaviour/s have changed, but a counsellor can validate that you are or have attended counselling